February 4th, 2010 
admin When children are 2, they get angry and they lay on the floor and kick and scream. While we don’t particularly like these tantrums, as parents we all share stories of the tantrums our children throw.
As adults we too get angry. Some of us go take a walk. Some of us find journaling helpful. Some of us yell at the person closest to us, later feeling badly and needing to apologize. Some of us engage in activities that are self harming such as over eating, drinking and worse.
Teens get angry too. I’ve had moms actually say to me, “I can’t believe he/she is so angry over “that”. “That” of course refers to something that mom does not believe the teen should be angry about. I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen adults throw temper tantrums in what I think are the oddest of places. I’ve seen adults scream at retail employees. I’ve seen adults literally throw food in a restaurant. I’ve read about adults shooting guns at someone on a freeway. For me, these are not things that would push my buttons, but the reality is, we all get angry over different things. We all have different buttons that get pushed by various activities and we all have a different perspective on what’s just happened.
Teens are no different. I’ve seen my own kids get angry over unfairness in a classroom, over a friend saying or doing something they didn’t like, and yes, they even get angry at me and the decisions I make. Anger is ok. It’s how we handle the anger that makes us who we are, and as parents, we do have the right to tell our kids that certain behaviors when angry are not ok.
For example, it is not ok to slam doors, ever. I don’t care how angry you are, do not slam a door in my house. It is also never ok to hit another person. It does not matter how angry you are at that other person, you may never hit them. If you are feeling angry, take a walk, go swimming, hit a baseball, throw a basketball, kick a soccer ball. Work out the anger in a way that is not hurtful to another person or to yourself.
Both of my kids refuse to talk to me when they are angry. This is ok. I know that when they calm down and when the anger passes, they will come and tell me what had them so upset. Sometimes that might be the next day, or sometimes it might be the next week. It’s only when the anger is gone that you begin to see choices to solve whatever it is that brought on the anger in the first place. Anger can help lead you to decisions. Anger can help lead you to change.
Teenagers need to be allowed to feel anger. It helps them grow. It helps them learn how to have control. It’s hard to not yell or slam or a door. Having that control leads to increased self confidence in their own abilities. Being allowed to feel anger also helps teens learn to problem solve. This is something they will use forever. It’s a wonderful skill to learn.
Next time your teen is angry, smile and make a few suggestions on how to get rid of some of the steam, but do let them know that it’s quite ok to feel that way.
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Yes I would be angry. I always got my admission letters by snail mail.
I agree with Marianna. And if you claim that technically, borrowing one isn't wrong because you would have had to go online from school or the library anyway, then why DIDN'T you just do that? The reason was that it is far more pleasant to use a laptop you borrowed than to use a public one, right? The punishment was to make it unpleasant, which you certainly knew.
Are you going to spend your whole life doing things you know very well someone thinks you shouldn't, just because they didn't spell out every possible thing you might do in a situation:
"Oh, when we had that quarrel and I rushed out of the house in anger, you didn't TELL me not to go sleep with someone else, so you shouldn't be mad about it now."
"You didn't TELL me that I couldn't use the family car after my license was suspended and you took my car away!"
If there is the slightest doubt in your mind, why don't you just ask your parents if it would be OK to borrow a computer from someone, then. So, yes, I would be angry if I were your parents. In fact, I would make you return the borrowed laptop.
sorry…. but you can't stop the divorce…. in the long run… it will most likely be for the best anyway… less bickering and arguing going on.
glad to hear that you love your parents… this makes it a bit easier for you.
No…. you are not the cause of this…. they are……. they can't get along with each other……. the divorce is not your fault…. regardless of what anyone may say.
talk to some of your friends… whose parents are divorced…. ask them what to expect… and what to do.
I am very pro-life. I go join others picketing abortion mills at least once a month. I donate to a pro-life group that trys to reach out to young pregnant women struggling with what to do (here is the web site if anyone is interested: http://etools.ncol.com/a/jgroup/bg_wwwlifedonorcom_th-email_247.html )
In the story you expressed the anguish that many women have felt. I have not , thank god, personally experienced it–but it has been shared with me–including a couple of close friends.
There are a couple of reasons people gave you a thumbs down:
(1) the pro-abortion on demand folks would do it as knee jerk reaction.
(2) there are also those who want to deny that a woman would have these feelings–after all it is just an extension of her body–why should there be an emotional agony or feeling.
(3) there are those whom it hurts regardless of their feelings–they may have had an abortion–and have managed to deny or suppress that there are such feelings–this is a psycological thing.
Thanks for posting it .
I understand just where you are coming from. I know it hurts a lot. Stop beating yourself up about it. You did what you knew to do and view this as a learning experience. Take whatever it is that you've learnt from the experience and do what it takes to protect yourself in the future. Don't be so eager to jump into relationships, take the time to make sure people are what they appear to be. Take some self esteem classes & know that people need to earn your trust.
Make yourself strong and believe in yourself again.
Take care & take control. Good luck.
Do not listen to the person who said that by law, when you are 16 your parents have to give you more freedom. It is not true at all. You are still a minor and your parents are responsible for you according to the government.
I can't get my license. Not until I am 18. To be honest. I am glad my parents won't let me get my license. They know what it is like on the streets and how people are idiots while driving. They value my life. I have 2 friends who were killed less than a week apart from vehicle accidents. They were both 16.
I couldn't get a job. School was my job. Until I "dropped out", now I am getting my GED, and looking for a job so I can get into college a get a degree in criminal justice. And unless you don't mind working at a fast food place for close3 to nothing, you are going to have a heck of a time landing a job.
I couldn't even ride with my brother when he got his license. He was 4 years older than me.
I make A's and B's in school and hardly ever get into trouble. My parents are really overprotective. I have a really good relationship with my parents.
Want to know why? I understand that what they are doing will keep me alive. They have been on this earth longer than I have and know what is safe and what is not.
You say you haven't done anything to make your parents not trust you, yet you ask how to sneak stuff in. Whether you are joking or not, this makes you sound ignorant. This is probably why your parents won't let you do anything.
Your parents are making sure you stay alive and safe. You need to respect them for that.
wow! yea you have all the reason to be upset..But hey, you said it, it was very foolish of you to share personal info. with a stranger you met online.All i can tell you is to stop all communication with that guy and lady and block them…I hope you learn your lesson and i wish you the best…
I always found the law in United States of not being able to drink until age 21 completely STUPID! So let me get this straight, by age 18 you can go to war, go to jail, smoke, drive a car, fly a plane gamble and a number of other things, but you can't go out and buy a bottle of wine? I think out of all those things, DRINKING is the LEAST dangerous! Having the drinking age at 21, when the rest of the world is at 18 or even younger, just makes American teenagers want to drink more. And they have absoulutely no problems getting it. In my own opinion, if the age was lowered, we'd have fewer problems and be looked down less upon. By age 21, it's not even a big deal that you're allowed to drink. 95% of them have drank under aged.
I too come from an Italian family and I was allowed to drink wine only at home starting at around age 13. No one in my family got drunk out of their minds. It's actually looked down upon in Italy while here, people brag about it. It taught me that drinking was something casual and not to be taken for granted.
In high school, I really had no interest in drinking or getting drunk. I already kind of knew what it was about, didn’t think it tasted that great and it was more fun to be sober at a party. (watch everyone else =]). Honestly, and still to this day, I didn’t get the whole concept of getting drunk. What was so great about not remembering anything, acting like an idiot and having a pounding headache the next morning? Sure it made you feel “lose” for a little while, but everyone else remembered how stupid you acted for a lot longer.
I'm a mother of 3 boys, ages 9, 7 and almost 3. I'm almost certain my 7 year old will end up drinking in high school and will be my trouble child. He's a tester and curious about everything now, so i doubt it'll change. I can preach to them about drinking and the effects of getting drunk until I'm blue in the face. They can be preached to by a police officer in the D.A.R.E program. When it all boils down, the curiosity and peer pressure will be stronger than the consequences in that moment of time.
If I catch one of my kids drinking under the age of 15, they're going to be talked to and punished severely. Once they're in high school, it'll become their responsibility to call me if there's drinking at a party, if they feel uncomfortable in a certain situation etc. By that age, I can only hope they'll listen to my advice and to their gut feeling or what's right and what's wrong. If they screw up, there will be some kind of consequence, but they're not little kids anymore by that age.They can make their down decisions.
I think it's great you allow your kids to drink wine. Their culture is involved in their life in some way and I'm sure it'll make them less curious. You're actually ALLOWED to drink wine under age if it's for cultural/religious reasons. Anyone hear of wine at church!? I'm sure you'll have people on here who will jump to conclusions and judge you. They'll get over it and besides, we're not suppose to be commenting on your parenting skills.
Best wishes to you! =]